Not good looking enough for online dating
In other words, you need to earn love (or at least lust).
Sadly, no mom, dad or professor teaches us about the power of the well-placed compliment (or put-down), giving attention but not too much attention, being caring without being needy.
Or never bothered to cultivate your sensuality as a woman. Attracting a partner is all about the dance of polarity.
Energy flows between positive and negative electrodes, anode and cathode, magnetic north and south.
So it only makes sense that in the romantic arena, it should work the same way. The more stuff I do, the more accomplishments and awards I have, the more girls (or boys) will like me. Please say I'm right, because I've spent a LOT of time and energy accumulating this mental jewelry, and I'm going to be really bummed if you tell me it's not going to get me laid.
Well, it's not going to get you laid, brother (or sister).
Good results mean kudos, strokes, positive reinforcement, respect from peers, love from parents.From then on, that was your principal identity: The Smart One.Especially if you had a sibling who was better looking than you, in which case she (or he) was The Pretty One.Of course, as noted above, things only get worse once you graduate.And if you're frustrated with your love life, you just might try to compensate by working harder and achieving even more to fill that void.