Iranian american dating customs
After preparing the bride, veil ornamented with red flake is placed over her head, and she is brought into the middle with hymn and folk songs about henna.Henna that has earlier kneaded with water is brought in on a tray surrounded by candles and placed in the middle of the room.In modern day Iran, the Khastegari is a one-time formality.It is a sign of respect to the parents of both parties and for them (as wiser/elders) to have their thoughts shared with the potential future bride and groom.In the most traditional families, the first time that the man and woman see each other is when she enters to offer tea and pastries to the guests.
For this ceremony, one or more representatives of the man’s family would visit the woman's family.
Less emphasis is placed on these characteristics nowadays.
In modern times important characteristics are the education level and intelligence of the girl, her ability to make the most of the situation when times get tough, and her future prospects.
After hearing about the potential bride, the man's family will discuss his own merits, usually his education and/or career prospects.
The woman's parents will normally ask the suitor if he is able to provide her with accommodation, and if he is able to support their daughter financially. The most important part comes when the bride’s father calls for the tea to be served.